Categorize this post as "advice to my younger self." As a developer early in my career I would get very annoyed when coworkers and people in management at my various jobs in the software industry were not approaching the creation of software in the way that I did. Or did not have the same philosophy as mine about how this work should be done.
I'd assume that people who didn't think like me were doing things the "wrong" way, so they must be less talented, less thoughtful, less conscientious. They must not have read the books that I had read, didn't read blogs about the industry, and must not "care" like I did.
It took many experiences across different jobs of working with people who I respected, and who I could tell were very smart, but did not work the way I did, for me to finally understand that there was no "right" way to do things.
There are spectrums of personality traits in the software industry that can be summarized as a pair of opposites. Some of them might be:
Dreamers ↔ Pragmatists
Some like to think/talk about an ideal vision of a system, and some like to think/talk about the system as it is today.
Big Picture ↔ Detail-Oriented
Some take a high level view, some take a low level view. Some like to zoom out, some like to zoom in.
Move Fast & Break Things ↔ Slow & Methodical
Some value speed of change, and some value steady progress and stability.
Optimists ↔ Pessimists
Some proceed as if the best case will happen, some proceed as if the worst case will happen.
Answerers ↔ Questioners
There are so many ways to do anything in software. There are flaws in any solution, and people need to be watching for them and raising them. But at the end of the day, someone has to be willing to pick a direction and go with it.
I've tended to be toward the right side of these spectra, and would get very frustrated with people who were on the other side. What it took me years to understand was that you cannot have a successful software project where everyone is on one side or everyone is on the other side. Like so many areas of life, balance and diversity are essential for a good outcome.
The dreamers balance the pragmatists. The visionaries need boots on the ground. The speedsters need people to check their speed. Forward progress requires leaps of optimism, even when there are a million things that could go wrong.
To the younger me I'd like to say: different kinds of people exist for a reason, there is no "best" way to accomplish difficult goals, and you don't know everything.
